Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Hypocrisy
I think a lot of people over look this topic just because it's so common, we just don't notice. Including myself, obviously I'm going to say that. It's the falseness of someone's opinion, standards and beliefs by the way they pretend to do and be something they just can't be. A lot of us don't realize when we even do it because it's just so normal. We want to do the right thing and have the best influences by coming off a certain way, but then when we can't live up to the person we laid out for ourselves to be it shows what hypocrites we are in the process.
I don't talk about this much, but that's one of the reasons I can't stand religion like Christianity most of all. I know it's represented almost everywhere in my home and family because of the life Dad chose for us, but that does not mean we all have to stick to the same thing, so I chose not to. When I look at Christian's, I see people that act like God is their best friend and walk around like they've got hand made friendship bracelets from the guy and we don't. We're "learning" and they are here to help us "grow close to the Lord". That's so frustrating and obnoxious because it's fake. I'm sure their intentions are excellent but hello? They can't live up to it. No one can. It's one thing if you try, but another to gloat about it and act like you're this wonderful, selfless person who wants to save the world. They are hypocrites and some may not even notice.
I'm not saying all Christians are like this, same with people in general. But the last thing I want is to be looked down on by someone to is just there to put on a show. Hypocrites can be seen through like a glass wall most of the time and it irritates me to be surrounded by those kinds of people.
When it comes to myself, I know I can be the exact same way. Not by shoving God up someone's ass, but within my own personality and daily life. I hate getting in arguments with people because I know I'll most likely end up getting mad at them for something I do all the time or have done once before. Then, since we're arguing, of course they will throw that in my face! It just becomes a pattern that is only going to lead to more and more past issues that get brought up which makes a person want to correct them more and more for things that everyone has done before. Sometimes there is just no way to avoid hypocrisy? This also frustrates me. How do you ever avoid it?
No one is perfect, right? So the question is, how do we figure out how to get rid of hypocrisy? Can people change, learn a different way to handle arguments, or just realize they aren't perfect?
Maybe it takes a hypocrite to figure that out.
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Fear
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Venting
Monday, October 27, 2008
Indifference
I don't plan on writing anything similar to what I usually write. Tonight I'm writing about something personal, not based on situations others may be going through. This is different.
My thoughts feel on the edge as I’m slowly learning to cope with things I’ve never felt or dealt with before. I still disagree when I tell myself to work through it, because in moments it feels impossible. I notice myself crying more often and wanting to be separated from my situation or people. It’s indifference, and I wish I could run and hide. Almost everyone feels this way at least once and I’m beginning to believe this is my time. I hate it, and I would give much to dispose of this feeling. I thought I was growing. I assumed it was time I hit change on the building blocks we all travel, but with misunderstanding I was very wrong. They say one step at a time, and my expectations involve leaps.
Is it healthy to feel like you will never grow? This sounds like an easy question but I feel as if my anger, resentment, lies, unwilling opinions and selfishness will never just… die. We all have imperfections, but instead of sitting around admitting to accepting them, shouldn’t we try to fix them? I’m sure most of us do. But why can’t I? It continues to hurt as I hurt others. I don’t want to hurt others- that I do know. I may not be willing to take their pain from them considering I don’t have the maturity to admit that without lying. I would like to reach that which is my point here. I can’t keep looking at these people and feel my heart sink knowing there is a piece of them that I let die. It’s as if I can’t sustain a relationship without knowing what the turnout will be considering most end- just in different ways. Yet I continue to blame them. I make excuses until I run out of breath because I think it’s going to make it all fall on their shoulders and release from mine. This just makes it worse, and worse. The tension grows between myself and others as my heart grows dim and heavy. I start to become idolized and ashamed to look others in the eyes because when I do there is anger and every other doubted emotion shown in my tone and expression. People see it, including the ones I’m closest to and care the most about. They don’t know I have this problem. All they know is what they see, and run. I don’t blame them for running, and I don’t think I’ve ever asked them not to run. I know what they see, and I would be running too.
I don’t believe I’m mentally ill, or anything that would ever be taken to the extreme. But there’s something inside that connects with a past regret or mistake.
I need to know what that is. I’ve grown desperate now.
Don’t I deserve to know? I mean, shouldn’t we deserve to know the causes of the things we are willing to fix? This doesn’t add up to me. I feel as though sometimes I’ve been punished enough by all the mistakes I’ve made and all the things I’ve lost. I can’t keep saying sorry considering the word means nothing anymore. It’s actions that count, and I want to bring the ones that matter to life. If I don’t, I will never know what it feels like to finally be satisfied. So no, I don’t believe I have ever been completely happy all at once. But I want to be. I don’t want to be angry, sad, distant, and so on. I don’t want to live with the truth of hurting such amazing and important people… They do not deserve it. I am going to change, even if I feel I can’t right now. I’m going to. People deserve better, and personally I believe I deserve better for myself.
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Innocence
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
My Tragic Flaw
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Friendship
When I first moved away from my old town, I didn't seem to notice much about my friends feelings. Just my own. I wanted to run back home, and be with them. "I hate every person over here." I would constantly tell myself. "They will never be anything like my real friends, nor will they be good enough."
I still can't even believe I was that judgmental towards them- I didn't even know them.
Time after I settled in, I began to blame myself. My friends would call me on few nights, crying and asking questions and just wanting someone to talk to. Just wanting someone to be there. But could I be there? I questioned God why I couldn't be the friend i thought he wanted me to be. The one that stands by their friends forever, no matter what obstacle. This I had been committed to, but once I realised there was nothing I could do, I let go.
For almost two years I still beat myself up for ending it the way i did. Of course it was never 'really over', but it was no where near the same. We weren't neighbors anymore, nor did we feel like we even knew each other. We still don't to this day. But the truth is, there was nothing I could honestly do. I was the best friend I could be, and they were the best friends they could have been. I'll never take their friendship for anything more, or anything less.
It's been quite some time now, and I have new friends. No, they are not the same, quirky people I used to dance on top of coffee tables with- but they are real. I have a best friend that I wouldn't trade for any other friend in the world. Sure, she is quirky, dorky, you name it- And I absolutley love that about her. She feels like the one friend I've been searching for all along, through I guess this journey called moving on. I have had a lot of other friends in my new town, but none seemed to fit. For some of them, I was just the new girl and it was easy to be friends with me-so I've been told. But Sam never made me feel that way. She wanted a friend, and I at the time wasn't even looking. But once the time came where I could admit her to being my best friend, I felt so much better about everything. I don't think she'll ever go away.
Last night, I recieved a phone call from my very old best friend, Emily. See, when I was younger I basically didn't have the choice of who I wanted my best friend to be. Emily had to be it, or we weren't going to be friends at all ( In her theory ). As much as we fought, I always had to call her what she stated herself to be.
When she called last night, I could tell she'd been dealing with something. She told me she wanted the authentic relationship we had back when we were 6-years-old. I tried to explain how we were older now, and times were changing. I told her I had new friends, and a new life. Of course, I would always be her friend. But I can't put myself in that situation as so often as she wanted to, because then I become attached. I don't know how or why, but I do when it comes to the people and things in that neighborhood. She left the phone crying, saying our friendship was over. It didn't really hit me until later that night.